For the parent who knows, and hasn’t said it yet
You’ve had years to get ready for this conversation. They’ll have hours. Use the time you have.
A 90-day plan, in order, so you can walk into the first consult with the documents, the budget and the questions already done.
You already know. Maybe you’ve known for a long time. You’ve rehearsed it, put it off, rehearsed it again. And somewhere in the back of your mind is the question nobody answers: what am I supposed to have done before I say it?
The parents I’ve sat with say the same thing in hindsight. The day the word was said, the quiet window closed. What wasn’t documented, saved or set up by then was done under pressure, in the wildest weeks of the whole case, or never done at all.
The Quick Start told you the window exists. This is what to do with it, in order.
The 90-Day Prep Playbook is the full version: three phases across ninety days, documentation first because it’s invisible, money moves last because they’re the most visible thing you can do. Thirteen parts, five worksheets, and a compressed timeline for when you don’t have ninety days.
Get the 90-day plan · $27Written by a mom of four who learned the family court system the hard way · 48 pages · PDF + editable Word · Instant download
What going in unprepared costs
- The documents you can’t get later. Tax returns, statements, the house on video. Easy to capture this month. Sometimes impossible once someone knows.
- The first weeks with no record. Without a communication platform, those conversations live in edited texts and memory against memory.
- The status quo you didn’t mean to build. What parenting looks like before filing often shapes the temporary order that runs the case for a year or more.
- The money you can’t reach. No reserve, no retainer, and the household budget suddenly on one income.
None of this is about outmaneuvering anyone. It’s about not walking into the hardest season of your life with nothing on paper.
What you get: The 90-Day Prep Playbook
You walk into the first consult with the documents, the budget and the questions already done.
Before you decide
“I haven’t decided anything yet. Is this too soon?”
No. Nothing in it requires a decision, and the first phase is mostly gathering and documenting what you can legally access. Preparation keeps your options open; it doesn’t commit you to anything.
“My spouse already filed. Is it too late?”
Part 3 is written for exactly that: the compressed timeline, what to do this week and this month, and what you give up when there’s no runway.
“How is this different from the free Quick Start?”
The Quick Start is the short version: four patterns, the 90-day overview and the five photographs. The Playbook is the full sequence with the reasoning, the exceptions, the long checklist and five worksheets.
“Is this legal advice?”
No. It’s an educational workbook written by a parent, not a lawyer, built from what other parents describe learning the hard way. Your attorney tells you what applies in your state.
The 90-Day Prep Playbook is an educational workbook: a starting point to bring to a licensed attorney, not legal advice and not a substitute for one. It doesn’t tell you whether to divorce or what a court will do. Created by a parent who navigated the family court system; sold by ValuED Sales LLC dba May Divorce Be With You.
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This is an educational publication, not legal advice. The author is not an attorney. Purchase does not create an attorney-client relationship, and no information shared with the seller is protected by attorney-client privilege. It describes observations from parents the author has sat with, mostly in Utah; family law is state law, and an attorney licensed in your state must advise you on what actually applies before you act on anything in it.
This workbook is not for you right now if any of these are true: you are afraid of what your spouse will do if they find out you are planning to leave; your spouse has been physically violent, or has threatened to be; your spouse has threatened to take or harm the children, or to hurt you, if you try to leave; your spouse monitors your phone, location, accounts, conversations or time in a way that makes this prep impossible to do safely; there is a current or recent protective, restraining or no-contact order in either direction; there is active substance abuse, untreated severe mental illness or active suicidal ideation in the home; or there is any concern your spouse might flee the country with the children. In those situations the right move is not careful financial prep over ninety days. It is a safety plan, built with someone trained to build one, before anything else.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (text START to 88788), 24/7, free, confidential. In immediate danger: 911, always.
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