Founding release · $197 with code FOUNDING100 through October 31. On November 1 it goes to $297.

Divorce Clarity System · The guided course

Walk into every conversation about your kids knowing what you want, what’s missing, and what to ask.

Build a Parenting Plan You Can Actually Live With. A guided course on the parenting-plan side of divorce. You read the plan you have, or the one you’re building, find every place it goes quiet, and leave with four pages your attorney or mediator can actually work from.

8 modules · 24 lessons · 156-page binder + 8 worksheets · No plan required · Start from whatever stage you’re in

Founding price through Oct 31 · Instant access

Wherever you are right now, there’s a route for you

The course opens with eight stage routes. You pick the one that sounds like this week and do that route, not all eight. It tells you what matters now, what can wait, and which lessons to start with.

If you recognized yourself in one of those, the course was built for the conversation you’re about to have.

Most parenting plans are specific about the calendar and vague about everything else. That vagueness is where the friction lives.

Most people expect the hard part to be disagreement. Usually it isn’t. The hard part is the thing neither of you thought to decide. Those gaps sit quietly for a year and then show up on the worst possible day, when you’re negotiating under pressure with a child waiting.

The gaps that hurt aren’t the big ones

Not who has the children. These:

• Who tells the school
• What counts as an emergency
• What happens when a pickup is going to be forty minutes late
• Whether either of you can make a medical appointment without asking
• Who pays when a $400 expense shows up that nobody discussed first

And the ones nobody remembers to write down until they need them

• Who signs the kids up for summer camp, and who pays the deposit
• How much notice before out-of-state travel, and who holds the passports
• What happens to the schedule when a child turns 13 and has their own opinions
• Phones and devices: who buys them, who sets the rules, and what happens when the rules differ between houses
• Extracurriculars one parent signs up for and both are expected to drive to
• What you’ll do the first time you disagree, before anyone calls a lawyer

None of these are dramatic. Together, they’re what the next six months of friction is made of. The course walks you through every one of them as a question, so you raise it now, at a kitchen table, instead of later in an email you’d rather not send.

What attorneys and mediators ask you to bring

Ask anyone who sits across the table from divorcing parents for a living and you’ll hear a version of the same thing: the clients who get the most out of the time they pay for come in knowing their priorities, with their facts in order and their questions written down. The course is built to produce exactly that.

The course doesn’t tell you what to ask for or what to give up. It makes sure you know what you think before someone else asks.

Run it against a real week

One exercise from the course: take an ordinary Thursday with a sick child, a late pickup and a school form due, and walk it through your document. Then a holiday that lands on someone’s weekend. Then the $400 expense. If the document doesn’t say what happens, that isn’t a reason to panic. It’s a list of questions. And the course shows you how to ask them so they get answered:

The second one gets answered. The first one gets defended.

What’s inside

Everything you get

What it costs, next to what it’s up against

At the founding price, the course costs less than one hour of a family-law attorney’s time in most of the country. It doesn’t replace that hour. It makes it a better one. You stop paying someone to help you figure out what to ask, so the hours you pay for go to the judgment only they can give.

Rates: Clio Legal Trends Report, 2025 average hourly rates for family law by state.

Short on time this week?

Start with the 30-minute Quick Start. Six steps, a timer, and you stop when it goes off. You’ll leave with the name of the document you’re working from, an honest read on where your plan stands, one gap that matters right now, one question worth asking, and three next moves.

Who this is for

• You’re thinking about divorce and want to understand the parenting side before anyone files anything
• You keep having the same argument about something the plan never actually decided
• Mediation or a signing is coming and you want to know what the document leaves out
• You’ve been living with an order for a while and it no longer matches your week
• You want to walk into your attorney’s office with organized questions instead of a story

What this will not do: tell you whether to divorce; tell you which custody arrangement to choose, what legal position to take, what to ask for or what to give up; tell you whether your agreement is fair, whether a legal standard has been met, or what a judge would do; tell you whether to enforce or modify anything. It is not legal advice, a legal service, or a substitute for an attorney.

Who made this

Hi, I’m Shelly. I’m a mom of four and a former classroom teacher. Since leaving the classroom, I’ve built learning programs that help people understand hard things quickly.

I’ve been through the family court system as a parent. I didn’t know what I didn’t know, and I learned most of it the slow way. The Divorce Clarity System is the course I wish someone had handed me at the start. It goes step by step, and it’s honest about everything a parenting plan has to cover.

I’m not an attorney, and this isn’t legal advice. It’s education, so you walk into your attorney’s or mediator’s office knowing what to ask.

Which one fits

• The course fits if you have a plan, a draft, or an arrangement you’re living, or none yet, and you want someone walking you through it.
• A parenting plan template fits if you need a drafting starting point to bring to your attorney.
• One Fell Swoop fits if you want every template and guide for every stage, to use on your own.

Questions people ask first

This is an educational publication created by a parent who navigated the family court system, sold by ValuED Sales LLC dba May Divorce Be With You. It organizes the facts and questions for a conversation with a licensed attorney. It does not supply the answers.

Start where you are

You finish with four pages: what your plan says, where it goes quiet, the questions that get answered, and three next moves.
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