For the night before you sign something

So… they sent the agreement.

It landed in your inbox, or it was handed across a table at the end of a very long day. Everyone wants it back quickly. You have less time than you need, and you have not read it properly.

That is not a personal failing. It is what this stage does to people. The hard part felt like it was over.

You don’t need to understand every paragraph tonight. You need to know which ones you can’t explain.

This free guide is one question, asked of every paragraph:

Can you explain, in your own words, what this paragraph does?

Not whether you agree with it. Not whether it is fair. Whether you could say out loud, without looking, what it requires, of whom, by when, and what happens if that does not occur.

Go through with a pen and mark every paragraph where the answer is no. Don’t research them. Just mark them. That list is the most useful thing you can hand an attorney at this stage, because it tells them exactly where to spend the hour.

What’s inside

The one question, and how to work through a whole document with it.
Four other things to notice while you mark: blanks and bracketed placeholders, anything “attached” or “incorporated,” anything with a time attached, and anything you discussed that isn’t in there.
A worksheet for the terms you can’t explain.
The questions for the consultation, and what not to decide in a room if it is happening today.

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Whether you should sign anything, and what any provision would mean in your case, is not a question this guide answers. I’m not an attorney. It organizes the read so you can take it to someone who can.

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