So… You’re Thinking About Modification. Free guide

For parents living under an order that’s stopped fitting

The order can have been right when it was signed, and wrong now.

A free list of questions that sorts out what you’re actually asking for, so you can find out whether it’s worth a consult before you pay for one.

A new job. A new school. A schedule that worked when they were six and doesn’t at eleven. The document is still describing a life nobody is living.

Both things can be true. Circumstances moved. That’s all that happened.

Four different asks get run together constantly, and the difference is expensive to get wrong.

A few things inside

The four asks. Modification, enforcement, contempt and clarification. They go to different places, carry different risks and cost different amounts.
Before you spend a dollar. The questions worth answering first.
Start the log today. Three rules, and they’re the whole method.
One word to look up in your own decree tonight.
If safety is part of it, what changes, and in what order.

Try it now

Finish this sentence: “The order says ______, but now ______.”

If you can fill in both blanks, you’re probably asking a modification question. If the first blank is clear and the second is “they just don’t do it,” you may be asking a different one.

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This is one parent’s list of questions, not advice about your case. I’m not an attorney. It sorts the question so you can take it to someone who can. It contains no state standards, no deadlines and no recommendation to file, or not to file.

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This is an educational publication, not legal advice and not a substitute for an attorney. The author is not an attorney. Downloading does not create an attorney-client relationship, and no information shared with the publisher is protected by attorney-client privilege. The procedures the author has followed most closely are in Utah. Family law is state law and varies significantly; an attorney licensed in your state is the only person who can tell you what applies. Relocation is its own body of law and is not covered here.

If there is domestic violence in your situation, an active protective order, coercive control, or if keeping records or pursuing anything would put you at risk, work with someone trained in safety planning before you start. Enforcement and modification can renew contact with the other parent.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Free, confidential, 24 hours a day. In immediate danger: 911, always.

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