Start Where You Are · free early access
You still have to clock in tomorrow.
Somewhere between work, school pickup and everyone’s questions, you’re trying to figure out what comes next. Start Where You Are is short lessons and a working binder for that: where things stand today, what you have, and what to ask.
Join the free early-access list and get
- Five pages from the program to use tonight: “What is true today,” your next thirty days, and what you’re not doing this month, plus the privacy and safety pages.
- A filled-in example, so you can see what a finished page looks like.
- An email when every video lesson is up, on November 27.
- An invitation to a free workshop on December 10, where we fill in the first page together.
Early access opens November 24 at the founding price: $297, or 3 payments of $99, through December 31. From January 1, it’s $397.
Send me the pages
Use whichever email feels private to you. Our subject lines don’t say “divorce.”
If someone else can see your email or phone, use an address only you can open.
Ready to start now?
Founding enrollment is open. Get the full binder today, and the video lessons as they post, all by November 27. $297, or 3 payments of $99. Founding price through December 31, then $397.
See what’s included →What this is for
It’s a lot to hold in your head while you keep everything else running.
Papers on the counter that you read after the kids are asleep.
A bank statement in one email, a pay stub in another, the insurance card in a wallet that isn’t yours.
An appointment on Thursday, and a list of questions you meant to write down.
Two hours off work you haven’t figured out how to ask for.
Start Where You Are puts it on paper, one page at a time, so you can see where things stand, gather what you already have access to, and walk into your next conversation with an attorney, a mediator or HR with your questions ranked.
What’s inside the program
Short lessons and a working binder, in eleven sections.
Each section is a few pages you fill in. Each lesson walks through those pages on video. Skip what doesn’t fit you.
Plus twelve reference files you open only when they fit: the interim, time with the children, before you agree, relocation, high conflict, military families, no legal plan, and more.
What it does for you
One folder, three questions first, and the rest of the week back.
Here is what I want it to feel like when you close the binder. You walk into the appointment with one folder instead of a phone full of screenshots. You know which three questions come first. When someone asks for the bank statements, you know where they are. And the thing that has been running in the back of your head at 2 a.m. is written down, with a date next to it, so it can wait there.
Why it’s worth doing before the meeting
An attorney bills for the time whether it goes to your questions or to finding out where your documents are. If your attorney bills $400 an hour, every six minutes is $40. A first meeting that starts with “I’ll have to look that up” costs the same as one that starts with your ranked list.
Start Where You Are is $297, less than one hour of an attorney’s time. It doesn’t replace that hour. It helps you spend it on the questions only an attorney can answer.
Who’s behind it
What people say about my other resources
“I have a great lawyer but I want to be prepared, and I’ve enjoyed and aligned with your content.”Jamyra S. · One Fell Swoop library
“You consistently have pointed out things I haven’t thought of. It’s lovely. Just wanted to say thank you from one Utah mom to another.”Michelene · parenting plan templates
“Having a few examples has been worth every penny. Thanks for doing the work!”Aaron V. · custody plan
“I purchased the 50/50 parenting plan and brought it to my lawyer. She went through it with me and we used a lot of it in our agreement. I would have been lost without it. Thank you for sharing what you learned.”A parent · Joint 50/50 plan
These are about my guides and templates. Start Where You Are is new, so there are no reviews of it yet.
How the launch works
This fits if
- You haven’t told anyone at work yet.
- Someone asked for documents, and they’re in six different places.
- You have an appointment next week and nothing written down.
- You don’t have kids, a legal plan, or an HR department. It still fits.
Questions
Do I need to have decided anything?
No. The first section is about where things stand today. Thinking about it, already filed, or years past a decree all count.
Is it private?
What you write stays on your paper or your own device. Nothing you fill in comes to us. Subject lines don’t say “divorce.”
I don’t have benefits through work.
Section Six is for people who have a legal plan. Everything else works without one, and one reference file is written for people with no legal plan.
Is this legal advice?
No. It’s education and preparation. It ends where a licensed professional begins, and it helps you get more out of that conversation.
I’m Shelly. I’m an educator and a mom of four, and I’m not an attorney.
Buying for someone else?
Maybe it's a sister, a friend, or someone at work.
Someone who can't take this on right now. You can send it to their email with a note from you, or print it and hand it over. They choose what fits, and their pages stay theirs.
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